Gloria Lintermans
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Stepfamilies and the Cycle of Grief
In step and blended families there is a cycle of grief, the healthy, natural emotional-physical-mental process which allows us to successfully deal with divorce or the death of a mate(major tangible and invisible losses for everyone), heal the pain, and eventually move on. Mourning these cannot be hurried, but can be slowed or stopped by inner and outer forces. Such blockage promotes personal anxiety, major... (posted by Gloria 61 days ago.)
In step and blended families there is a cycle of grief, the healthy, natural emotional-physical-mental process which allows us to successfully deal with divorce or the death of a mate(major tangible and invisible losses for everyone), heal the pain, and eventually move on. Mourning these cannot be hurried, but can be slowed or stopped by inner and outer forces. Such blockage promotes personal anxiety, major... (posted by Gloria 61 days ago.)
The Step-Grandparent Role
Relationships in blended/stepfamilies are new, untested, and not a given as they are in traditional families. Even when everyone is in tune, what is missing is the comfort of knowing that there is a bond taken for granted, a biological bond of caring and love. Now, outward signals and signs are continuously needed to show that caring and loving, or respect, really exist. Children in blended/stepfamilies also have at least one... (posted by Gloria 198 days 4 hours ago.)
Relationships in blended/stepfamilies are new, untested, and not a given as they are in traditional families. Even when everyone is in tune, what is missing is the comfort of knowing that there is a bond taken for granted, a biological bond of caring and love. Now, outward signals and signs are continuously needed to show that caring and loving, or respect, really exist. Children in blended/stepfamilies also have at least one... (posted by Gloria 198 days 4 hours ago.)
Effective Step and Blended Family Discipline
The roles of stepmother and stepfather are not easy, a confusing mix of similarities and differences to that of biological mother and father roles. Equally baffling are the alien roles of stepson, stepdaughter, stepsibling, and half sibling. Teenagers, even in the best of biologically intact families, are capable of making your hair stand on end. Multiply that a few times over and you have an idea of the... (posted by Gloria 219 days 1 hour ago.)
The roles of stepmother and stepfather are not easy, a confusing mix of similarities and differences to that of biological mother and father roles. Equally baffling are the alien roles of stepson, stepdaughter, stepsibling, and half sibling. Teenagers, even in the best of biologically intact families, are capable of making your hair stand on end. Multiply that a few times over and you have an idea of the... (posted by Gloria 219 days 1 hour ago.)
The Stepfamily Challenge
As a step and biological Mom, and the author of a book on stepfamilies which included not only my own experience but research with stepfamily authorities and other stepfamilies, I am aware, all to often, of the high rate of divorce among these families. One reason is that there are no understood guidelines for these families. Society tends to apply the rules of first marriages, while ignoring the... (posted by Gloria 267 days 1 hour ago.)
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As a step and biological Mom, and the author of a book on stepfamilies which included not only my own experience but research with stepfamily authorities and other stepfamilies, I am aware, all to often, of the high rate of divorce among these families. One reason is that there are no understood guidelines for these families. Society tends to apply the rules of first marriages, while ignoring the... (posted by Gloria 267 days 1 hour ago.)
Why Some Step and Blended Families Thrive and Others Crash and Burn
In any stepfamily at least three people are struggling to form new family relationships while still coping with reminders of the past. Each family member brings expectations and attitudes that are as diverse as the personalities involved. Creating a successful stepfamily, as with any family, is easier for all when each member tries to understand the feelings and motivations of the others... (posted by Gloria 1 year 39 days ago.)
In any stepfamily at least three people are struggling to form new family relationships while still coping with reminders of the past. Each family member brings expectations and attitudes that are as diverse as the personalities involved. Creating a successful stepfamily, as with any family, is easier for all when each member tries to understand the feelings and motivations of the others... (posted by Gloria 1 year 39 days ago.)
Help with StepDad Problems
Men who marry women with children come to their new responsibilities with a mixed bag of emotions. Your motivations may be far different from those that make a man assume responsibility for his biological children. As a new husband, you might react to your “instant” family with feelings that range from admiration to fright to contempt. You might even see yourself as less effective than a biological father. A new... (posted by Gloria 1 year 70 days ago.)
Men who marry women with children come to their new responsibilities with a mixed bag of emotions. Your motivations may be far different from those that make a man assume responsibility for his biological children. As a new husband, you might react to your “instant” family with feelings that range from admiration to fright to contempt. You might even see yourself as less effective than a biological father. A new... (posted by Gloria 1 year 70 days ago.)
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